"Change comes from new permissions for what once was not allowed…"
What made Elvis, Elvis?
Was it songs of blue suede shoes, the black-slicked hair, a velvet voice, those swinging hips at a time when such things were thought lascivious and indecent by some, yet desired and loved by so many others?
But here's what I propose: What made Elvis, with all his warts and glory, was that no one saw him coming, and no one quite knew where things were going once he had arrived, and by changing outdated molds he pushed the times forward.
Elvis was an Agent of Change.
And from the change he brought came those who kicked and screamed in revolt, while others were shouting out in more delighted ways. That's what change so often can do—it can bring to the surface a polarity of feelings, ranging from anger and fear to exalted joy.
Fear of change brings up tensions, and freedom from such tensions brings up joy, as a deeper yearning can finally push through. Change comes from new permissions for what once was not allowed, and from relinquishing older familiar rules and habits and ways that no longer serve a useful purpose. There is an ache before change occurs, and when this ache is responded to, it fades and is replaced by what was ached for.
There are those rare public figures who bring change at a global scale, while most of us have more private ones to explore. Personal change is large for the person who aches for it, feels it, lives it, achieves it, even when only they or those who know them witness its arrival. There is something deep and touching no matter the scale when it occurs, for when it does people are moved and a life is transformed.
Private scale change is what I intend to support here in my blog—with notions and practices useful for your everyday. What you won't find here are '10 To-Do's for Becoming a Happier You' or '5 Sure Fire Ways to Keep Love Burning Hot' nor other tips & tricks for living, as there are plenty of other places to read such things. In my experience, 'Tips & Tricks' tend to lose their sway after a short while.
My biggest challenge as I begin to blog, is that I'm most at home when supporting a specific person, in a specific moment, and in a personal face-to-face way—as a therapist—while working together in their process of change, and so writing to an unknown reader is actually quite strange for me.
And while what I write here is certainly not therapy, I believe we all have an agent of change inside to make good use of and to celebrate, and maybe just maybe something I write here will encourage and speak to the one inside of you.
So here we are.
My sincere hope is that you live an enriched life, in however you define that for yourself. Supporting people in doing just that is the purpose of my work, which is very satisfying for me. If you have a need to slip into your own blue suede shoes, or strengthen, or perhaps even find, your own authentic voice, or are yearning to break free from some outdated and constraining molds, just know that you can call on me, and together we can explore what’s possible for you.